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According to Raz in the City
Wipe the Smile Off My Face
Here’s a doozy so big and so intense that it deserves its own post. I received this brief little message on OkCupid at the beginning of last month: “Gosh, your smile <3” Then, 18 days later, after no response from me: “Gosh, am so in love with your smile ❤ Could imagine waking up every […]
Posted in: My Stories
The Replacements
August 20, 2013
This story is from Sam, a 27-year-old student from L.A., as told to Raz: I went to a club with Jessica, a girl I’d been hooking up with. After a night of dancing, I assumed we’d be heading back to my place. But when I asked if she wanted to leave, she got a mischievous look […]
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Recent OKCupid Gold (Nothing Gay Though Because I’m Straight.)
August 6, 2013
Ok guys, I’m not saying that every message you’re sending me on an online dating site needs to be an individually crafted personal ode to why I’m the perfect girl for you. In fact, that sounds really creepy. More often than not, a simple “Hey, how are you?” does the trick just fine. With that […]
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Once a Bully, Always a Bully
July 8, 2013
This story is from Scott, a teacher in Connecticut, as told to Raz. A couple weeks ago, I went on a date with a coworker. We met up at a bar and chatted about nothing for a while, just like any first date. Eventually, we got onto the topic of work—the first thing so far […]
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Dude Acts Like a Lady
July 3, 2013
Sure, I like a guy who’s in touch with his feminine side—who’s not afraid to cuddle or watch a romantic comedy—but Scott, a recent online find, had me actually worried about what might be between his legs. Why? There were four reasons: 1. The face. I told him I was going to my sister’s graduation a […]
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Tales From The Wrestler’s Bedroom
June 7, 2013
This story is from Jamal, a 25-year-old teacher in NYC, as told to Raz: One night, I got to talking with a girl, Katie, at a bar. One drunken thing led to another and we ended up making out a little. Eventually though, her even-more-wasted-than-us friend pulled her away and they started talking to two […]
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Be Prepared
May 30, 2013
Jon, an online find, treated our first date like a game of 20 questions, complete with well-thought-out, conversation-starting brain teasers that he’d clearly memorized many dates ago. What he hadn’t practiced, however, was how to seamlessly slip them into conversation. As soon as there was the slightest lull, he’d hit me with, What were you […]
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The Great Escape
May 14, 2013
This story is from Christina, a 26-year-old dance teacher in Boston, as told to Raz: OK, I have to admit, I may have been the “bad” person on this date. I agreed to see a new exhibit at the Institute of Contemporary Art with a guy I’d met online. It seemed like a more active […]
Posted in: Your Stories
A Grouper Is Not A Fish
May 7, 2013
Grouper is probably the least creepy way to online date. Why? Your friends are with you the whole time. The main reason I started this blog was so I could say, “Hey friends, look how awful this date is going!” But on a Grouper, all I need is a safe word and I can easily […]
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Stranger Danger
May 2, 2013
This story is from Mario, a 24-year-old consultant in NYC, as told to Raz: When I got home from this little adventure, it was 4am, and I was exhausted. But I still realized that this story was too good to forget in a drunken haze, so I wrote it all down before passing out: On […]
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Real dates, real men, real disasters
When Bad Dates Happen To Good People 
August 27, 2013
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