Here’s a doozy so big and so intense that it deserves its own post. I received this brief little message on OkCupid at the beginning of last month: “Gosh, your smile <3” Then, 18 days later, after no response from me: “Gosh, am so in love with your smile ❤ Could imagine waking up every […]
August 6, 2013
Ok guys, I’m not saying that every message you’re sending me on an online dating site needs to be an individually crafted personal ode to why I’m the perfect girl for you. In fact, that sounds really creepy. More often than not, a simple “Hey, how are you?” does the trick just fine. With that […]
January 30, 2013
This story is from Laura, a 25-year-old vet student in L.A., as told to Raz: The new thing in vet school is apparently to join an online dating service—everyone’s doing it. So I jumped on that bandwagon and joined OkCupid. One of my first messages was from a guy named Ryan. We were only a […]
October 15, 2012
I was excited about Eddie. In his JDate photos, he was super hot, tall and athletic. Plus, our emails proved that we actually had a lot in common. After about 5 messages back and forth, he asked for my number, which I happily handed over. When he called me the next night, I was nervous […]
September 14, 2012
This story is from Nikki, a 24-year-old retail associate in NYC, as told to Raz: Some guys really just ruin it for the rest of them. Like this guy who effectively turned me off from OkCupid altogether with his first and only message. I’m guessing he was going for clever, but his creepiness got the […]
July 9, 2012
This story is from Kate, a 24-year-old merchandising assistant in NYC, as told to Raz: As a generalization, I’m really awkward with guys. This, however, was not a case of awkwardness or misunderstanding—this guy was just a little bit crazy. In college, Jonah worked at the dining hall. We’d been introduced at a party, but […]

Real dates, real men, real disasters
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