Just Don’t Do It

Posted on October 5, 2012


This story is from Kate, a 25-year-old (happy birthday, Kate!) merchandising assistant in NYC, as told to Raz:  

It was a Saturday night, and I went out for an old friend’s birthday party. It was a little awkward because her roommate Lara and I were kind of on the outs. Regardless, I showed up to their apartment for the pre-game expecting the best. On the elevator ride up, I met Lara’s college friend Harry. He was nice, but not at all attractive, and I didn’t think much of our encounter.

The pre-game was a little awkward, so I started drinking, and the more I drank, the more attractive Harry got. An hour in, I was so drunk that it didn’t even bother me when he showed off the HUGE tattoo of the Nike swoosh on his chest.

We all left the pre-game for a club, and Harry and I were all over each other on the dance floor. Eventually, he pinned me up against the wall and we spent the rest of the night making out.

At 4am, my friends decided to head back to their apartment and get something to eat, so Harry and I went with them. We had to take two cabs, and Harry and I ended up splitting up. As we pulled up to their apartment, Lara laughed, “That’s so funny that you were making out with Harry. He’s engaged.”


I was LIVID at both Harry and Lara, but I didn’t want to lose my cool. I took a deep breath and tried to keep it together. Harry met up with us at the apartment, and he asked me where we should go next, hinting that he wanted to come home with me.

I replied, “That sounds nice, but maybe you should go home to your fiancée.”

Busted. He couldn’t have run out the door faster. The next day, he sent me the Facebook message below. Side note: his profile picture is of him and his fiancée, and his status is set to “Engaged.”

Hey Katie!! It was very nice meeting you last night. Hope you had a good time catching up with everyone. I apologize for how the night ended, but great meeting you nonetheless. 🙂 It’s always nice to meet someone with a great personality and sense of humor. Not sure exactly what you want, but good luck in fashion and I’ll see ya around!



He doesn’t know what I want? Well, someone who isn’t engaged to another girl, for starters. And I was pretty sure the only thing he was sorry about was that I didn’t go home with him and that he was caught in a lie.

I spent the next morning feeling sorry for myself and convinced that I would never find love. But, then I realized the only person who should be upset is his fiancée. I still have a shot at finding someone who really cares for me, but she’s stuck in a relationship with a cheating jerk. No one deserves to be lied to or treated like this, and while it would be too big of a mess for me to get involved, I hope she finds something better ASAP.

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