Heads Up

Posted on November 16, 2012


Aaron and I met on JDate. He was 32, worked in finance and was kind of a cutie. I was excited when he asked me out, but our original date plans got all screwed up by Hurricane Sandy, so we resorted to a weeklong text conversation. Our text flirting was going well, and when both our apartments had power again, he called me. We chatted for a while, and he re-asked me out.

The day of our date, he texted me this: “I just wanted to warn you before we meet up that I wear hearing aids. It’s obviously not a big deal, but it’s been a problem in the past, so I didn’t want to surprise you.”

Awww. I felt bad that any girl in the past would have given him a hard time for wearing hearing aids. I’d already talked to the guy on the phone, and knew that his hearing and speech weren’t super affected. Some girls are just mean, I thought. I vowed to be extra nice on our date.

Problem was, he actually wasn’t that nice to me.

As soon as we sat at a table at the bar, he said, “I’ll get us a drink,” without asking what I wanted. He bought me a Heineken. I guess that’s fine, I thought, just not really a beer I normally opt for.

Then, he immediately started watching the football game above my left shoulder, barely looking at me as we spoke and actively reacting to every play.

“Who are you rooting for?” I asked.

“I don’t really care,” he said.

Eventually, he asked, “Did you play any sports as a kid?”

“No, I was actually a dancer growing up, so that was pretty much my sport.”

“Oh,” he looked confused. “Well, that’s OK.”

I’m so glad you approve! “I know,” I said. “I’m really proud of it.”

He went back to looking up at the game.

When I told him I was having minor surgery on my hand the next month. His response was to tell me in detail about a “minor” shoulder surgery he’d had that went terribly wrong. Not nice!

Then, he spent the rest of the date explaining to me in detail why his job was so boring. You know what’s more boring than doing a boring job? Talking about it.

Forget the hearing aids. Next time Aaron has a date, he should warm them in advance about his personality.

—Raz, 25, NYC

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