Aaron and I met on JDate. He was 32, worked in finance and was kind of a cutie. I was excited when he asked me out, but our original date plans got all screwed up by Hurricane Sandy, so we resorted to a weeklong text conversation. Our text flirting was going well, and when both our apartments had power again, he called me. We chatted for a while, and he re-asked me out.
The day of our date, he texted me this: “I just wanted to warn you before we meet up that I wear hearing aids. It’s obviously not a big deal, but it’s been a problem in the past, so I didn’t want to surprise you.”
Awww. I felt bad that any girl in the past would have given him a hard time for wearing hearing aids. I’d already talked to the guy on the phone, and knew that his hearing and speech weren’t super affected. Some girls are just mean, I thought. I vowed to be extra nice on our date.
Problem was, he actually wasn’t that nice to me.
As soon as we sat at a table at the bar, he said, “I’ll get us a drink,” without asking what I wanted. He bought me a Heineken. I guess that’s fine, I thought, just not really a beer I normally opt for.
Then, he immediately started watching the football game above my left shoulder, barely looking at me as we spoke and actively reacting to every play.
“Who are you rooting for?” I asked.
“I don’t really care,” he said.
Eventually, he asked, “Did you play any sports as a kid?”
“No, I was actually a dancer growing up, so that was pretty much my sport.”
“Oh,” he looked confused. “Well, that’s OK.”
I’m so glad you approve! “I know,” I said. “I’m really proud of it.”
He went back to looking up at the game.
When I told him I was having minor surgery on my hand the next month. His response was to tell me in detail about a “minor” shoulder surgery he’d had that went terribly wrong. Not nice!
Then, he spent the rest of the date explaining to me in detail why his job was so boring. You know what’s more boring than doing a boring job? Talking about it.
Forget the hearing aids. Next time Aaron has a date, he should warm them in advance about his personality.
—Raz, 25, NYC
When Bad Dates Happen To Good People 
aliciacastro87
November 22, 2012
Dear Raz,
Sorry to hear your date with Aaron was unsuccesful. I want to thank you for being a wonderful person. I wear hearing aids too and my dating experiences were a disaster. I noticed that guys refused to date me only because I have a hearing loss. In all the dates guys planned, I got stood up. I felt horrible and unworthy, but then I realize that good people like you exist in this world. I do not understand why people can be cruel and treat others different without knowing their inner beauty. I wish you find a person who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I hope that man treats you like a Queen and sees the inner beauty you have. I wish you, family, friends, and followers a Happy Thansgiving feast.